What are you afraid of?

I heard myself saying if we’re not thinking and acting based on faith, we’re thinking and acting based on fear. And fear is a bad thing.

But, I believe that most things are not all good or all bad; that it's how we respond to a situation that makes for a positive or negative experience.

Let's talk about grief. What keeps you from dealing with the unresolved grief you feel from time to time?

Whatever the reason maybe, it has something to do with fear.

Let’s talk about fear. Mostly when we think about or even hear the word, we put it in a negative place. It’s something to avoid. Let’s change this and consider that perhaps fear is not a bad thing. What might be good about it?

Well, it is quite a motivator of action. It makes for a lot of energy. It has a message. If I would listen to the message, instead of working so hard to avoid the feeling of fear, I might just hear something really important.

I tried it out. I asked what am I afraid of? I’m afraid I can’t or won’t generate as much money as I need. And how I’ve made the most money in the past is by working for someone else. I then looked at the facts and they told me the most money I ever made on a yearly basis consistently was when I had my own company.

OK. I feel empowered. The next time I feel fear, yes, I might first get stopped and want to avoid the feeling, but then I’ll keep going and ask this feeling of fear, “What is your message”?

When I invite people to do grief recovery, one of their fears is that they’ll get stuck in the painful feelings and thoughts of the past. I let them know they’re stuck in those places already! It’s only by consciously going into the painful and conflicted memories that we can learn something new and complete something old.

In healing the past, we can effectively and more joyously deal with the present and create our future.